The Journey of a Million Miles Starts with One Step...
I was asked recently “Why are you so talented and good at life”
It got me thinking. “I dont know whether to take this as a compliment or wonder how this person could believe that this is just how some people are. Like, we come out of the womb and were just good at life. Like we were reading the manual in utero.” haha. Well here is my thoughts and response. I guess a little sentimental because it is after all EASTER. What a wonderful day. Enjoy… and happy easter.
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im not good at life. i fail in many areas. I just make it a point to grow from my failures so that I can become a better man for myself and those around me. I look at our lives like this:
We are built and created in sin. We essentially start out innocent and we make choices based on our senses. Some of us are motivated by their hearts, some of us our minds and some of us our bodies. We go thru the process where we all majorly F%&& up and make choices that are not the best not only for us, but they hurt others. As long as we believe in the JOURNEY and not the race, and understand there are NO QUICK FIXES in life, ONLY small calculated decisions that WILL eventually lead us to a place of true happiness and contentment, and lastly that WE WILL GET THERE, then life is going to be ok.
Your loved, your forgiven and your blessed. Dont ever tell yourself your not. You have to have faith, not only in the process of the journey, but in who you are, and who you are DESTINED to become. Trust that all the things you focus on are the things that you will attract in your life. This means that if your focusing on the negative things, you will only attract those things in your life. Sometimes trusting in the process is crawling thru a tunnel of $HIT to come out of the other side to freedom. That is from the movie Shawshank Redemption and thats an analogy that you ARE going to go through rough times, sometimes unbearable times when you feel like you cant have faith or trust in anything. ITS THOSE MOMENTS YOU NEED TO STAND FIRM AND BELIEVE… that everything happens for a reasons and these things are helping to shape and grow you to become an even better person so that you can INSPIRE others to live to their full potentials and bless them with what you have been blessed with.
So friend, i am not good at life. I just believe in the process and because of it, i am blessed to do things that I never ever thought possible.
Thanks for writing in.
Posted by Deb on April 5, 2010 at 10:35 pm
Hey Danny!
Well said, my friend! We have all gone through stuff, and you are correct! It’s how we learn from our failures in order to get up and keep on moving. I am currently watching my son go through this process. After working hard for four years, his band broke up. Ironically, he was the youngest member, the “glue” so to speak that held these four young men together. He was constantly motivating them, reminding them that nasty comments or things said in the heat of heat of the moment are detremental not only to themselves but to each other. When they played a gig and it didn’t go too well, he would pull his band mates together and say, “Instead of saying how much we sucked tonight, why don’t we figure out WHAT made us suck and improve upon it?” Don’t get me wrong, the boys in his band were like sons to me, and there was a time when they all thought like my son. It just seemed that over the last year or so, they stopped giving outward and started withdrawing inward. I watched my son struggle to literally hold this band, (that he and his lead guitarist, who was his best friend), together to the point that they had a good local fan base and even recorded their own CD. Then, my son looked at the situation and said, “It can’t be my job anymore to try and hold these guys up! They are the ones that have to do right by others but most importantly, by themselves.” So he met with them and said as much. Unfortunately, the result from the others were, “What do you know? You are only 19? We are in our 20′s! F-off if you don’t want this band to be together!” So they decided to take a “hiatus.” Then, over the last few months, his lead guitarist and “best friend,” turned to alcohol and pot to “make himself” better. The other three? Well, they said, “If that’s the way he wants to be, then see ya!” They abandoned their band mate and brother. My son? He tried to stick with his friend, get him help, do the right thing. Instead, his best friend turned on him, and his best friend’s family, (who he worked for during the last 3 years), did as well. Naturally, as their manager, my heart tore apart to see such talented young men disband, and one of my other “sons” take the wrong turn. It was just this past week that I watched my son literally sit down and cry. I don’t think I have seen him cry like that since we had to put down our first dog. When he was ready to talk he came to me and said, “It totally sucks that it ended up this way. At first I was mad at those guys for turning on me, but now I realized that they have no clue that there is someone much greater that is leading their path and they are choosing to ignore it. I talked to them so many times about that, they would pretend to agree, but then, well, you see what happened. What’s worse is my best friend. As hard as I tried, I can’t help him, and his family is turning a blind eye. As strange as this may sound, I’m relieved” When I asked why, he said, “Because all of this time I was trying to point neon signs up for them to see, I was carrying their cross and trying to solve their problems. Then I realized my mistake: That’s not my job! Only one man carried a cross for all of us, and it is up to each individual to realize they are placed on a path by someone much greather then themselves. Most importantly, if they don’t have the faith to believe in HIM, then they’ll never learn from their mistakes. Am I hurt? Hell yeah! That was alot of work, fun and devotion! I’m a musician, and we had a good sound, and for a while were really connected. Me? I just kept staying on the path, learning that I am not so narsicistic to think I have the power to control my path. I just figured these guys were like me. I’m crying because unless they wake up, they’ll never get it. However, I know this too happened for a reason, and my path changed, and now He has something new in store for me. I fell big time, BUT, I learned from this and because of it, a new path has opened, and it seems now that it was more a burden then anything. I feel lighter for some reason. But, I’m not going to look back. I’m going to look forward. It’s like you always told me since I was a kid, “Even with failure comes success.” I grew so much musically and mentally from this. I had to say good-bye to the band and put it to rest in my mind. Now, I move forward.”
Danny, I’m sure your parents hear your words and get blown away at your innate philosophy and faith, and they probably learn from you too. I just turned 44. My son is 19. I have learned more from my one and only child then any book could ever teach. I know you have heard me say this a million times, but I’ll say it again. What drew me to you? You remind me so much of my son! I hope one day the two of you will meet. Heck, I hope one day all of us could meet! BTW, his amazingly beautiful girlfriend reminds me alot like Ruth. Beautiful and giving inside and out.
Thanks for sharing your words, Danny. It makes me grateful to know there are others out there like you, Ruth, my son and his girlfriend!
Many hugs! <3
Hope to hear from you soon!